Choosing a doula is BIG!
Finding the right one can make a world of difference in your birth experience. You want someone who's experienced, reliable, and maybe even a little fun too. Here are five questions to help you the perfect doula.
1. What's Their Experience?
Why:
Think of your doula as the Gandalf of your birthing journey—wise, experienced, and hopefully not telling you, "You shall not pass!" Experience means they’ve seen it all and can handle anything. Ask about their qualifications and how many births they've attended. After all, you wouldn't want someone whose only experience is binge-watching Grey's Anatomy.
Questions:
- What certifications or training have they attended/completed?
- Can you share some experiences or references from previous clients?
2. What Services Do They Offer?
Why:
Doulas offer a buffet of services, and you need to know what’s on the menu. Some specialize in prenatal care, others are postpartum pros, and some are all-rounders. Understanding what they offer ensures you’re getting the support you need.
Questions:
- What services do you provide before, during, and after birth?
- Do you offer any extras, like lactation consulting or baby yoga classes?
3. What Kind of Doula is the Best Fit for You?
Why:
Choosing a doula is like choosing a roommate. You’ll be spending a lot of time together, so compatibility is crucial. Look for qualities that resonate with you (and your partner)—whether that’s someone calm and collected or a cheerleader with a pom-pom for every contraction.
Questions:
- What is your approach to supporting birthing parents and involving partners?
- Can you describe your personality and working style?
4. What’s Their Primary Communication Style?
Why:
Good communication is key, especially when you’re in the throes of labor and need clear, calming guidance—not a game of charades. Find out how your doula prefers to communicate and ensure it aligns with your preferences. You don’t want someone who only texts when you need a full-on pep talk.
Questions:
- How do you usually communicate with clients (e.g., in-person meetings, phone calls, texts)?
- How do you handle urgent situations or questions outside of regular hours?
5. What Kind of Follow-Up Care Do They Provide?
Why:
The tiny human making doesn’t end when the baby arrives. Good follow-up care is like having a user manual for your newborn—essential and reassuring. Make sure your doula offers postpartum support to help you navigate those first few weeks of parenthood.
Questions:
- What kind of support do you provide after the birth?
- Do you provide resources or referrals for additional postpartum support?
Choosing the right doula is like finding a treasure map for your birthing adventure. By asking these five essential questions, you can ensure you’re in good hands—someone experienced, versatile, compatible, communicative, and supportive.